B u cheat? Well, we all do not deny that. Sometimes we irritated, annoyed and grumbling. We get angry and exasperated with this person or others for some reason or other reasons. There are many things, many circumstances make us anxious and frustrated, we often frustrated and angry when something do not want our discretion. We want everything to be just like my reviews and it failed, we are angry mad up.
Sometimes they desired something to us (such as rater), and when that does not happen, we are sad and angry. That is, everyone wants to sexually stimulate, provoke, insult us.They have a habit of making us like angry and upset.
In fact, the lack of conditions, favorable circumstances for us to anger. If we observe the reaction of our words and in deeds every day, we will find a lot of justification when we lose control, or right at the doorstep of the impatient. The hot anger expressed through words, gestures, changes in our facial expressions, voice, irritable, through our actions and when to voice.
And when we do not control it anymore, we started screaming, kicking things, close a door jamb, pounding the table, smashing phone or even assault or assault others. In such circumstances, we do not know kill or restrain anger and even rage one can die of a sudden heart attack.
Temper our anger changed through the power of emotion. Those with temper, temper very easily. Those who have gentle temperament, always in a state of calm, gentle after sulking went through. There are farmers envious hatred fester, who also easily forgiven, overlooked. Whether it is the matter what the facts exist that let us all get angry, just the difference in the power of emotion and the frequency of emotions only. Because even the most mild-mannered temperament, may also manifest signs of annoyance, anxiety, anger when his patience exceeded or when he suffered under too much pressure.
We should not get angry? Is it not plausible that angry? It used to be angry and shouting to others and then lost his temper and extremely murderous face it? Anger has become the lifestyle of some people in the world right? We gave it for granted and accept it as is natural and unavoidable thereof? When reading the magazine today, we find a lot of facts about the anger and hatred of the people of our planet. Read about all the struggles and the fight is taking place in all parts of the world, have we ever wondered why people could not live together peacefully as brothers and sisters can be a children? Why are we too tepid, too cruel, too inhuman? Why are there people who kill innocent people in order to win what they want? Why do so many countries competing to produce nuclear weapons that could destroy the human race in the world? Why is there so much fear and mistrust of each other?
Anger and love comes from the heart of us. One thing we're convinced that anger is bad, we must absolutely prevent them, when starting from the heart and our mind. It is an emotional destruction caused much suffering in the world and in our lives. It starts from our brain and mind is the source start, it needs to be checked and eliminated. In the preamble of the Charter of UNESCO (the United Nations Culture) said the following: "Since wars begin with the human mind, is also in the minds of people that the defenses of peace can be done ... ". In "Step into life enlightenment" reads as follows: "You can kill as many sinners? People that are countless in this world. But if the heat of the moment thought to be extinct, all enemies also be done away ".
Anger makes our lives miserable. If we continue to be angry and do not attempt to restrain it, we will continue to live in anxiety, insecurity. Every time we frustrating just because trifles, irritability, anger, we began to go crazy. This hot burning sensation increases with the intensity of anger. The more powerful anger, feeling our hot burning intensified in ... it's a very painful feeling. You can observe it in yourself. Next time, if you are anxious or angry things, observe mental status and heartbeat, and you will see the pain and the hurt of yourself are suffering in a state anger, confusion and annoyance.
Anger is a healthy state of the spirit, the Buddha never allow anything to anger. In Buddhism, there is nothing to be seen as angry attacks properly. Everyone anger from low or high levels also will be bad. It's like injecting poison into our minds. So Buddha advised us to "let anger turned into love." He also said: "resentment never overcome resentment. Only love can defuse resentment-this is an eternal law." He also said: "Let's conquer the angry man by his love."
Let's start with a smile, Buddha said, "even if a thief took a saw to cut limbs of us, we also should not show anger. If we was getting annoyed, angry News that we do not listen to his word. Instead, he advised us to bestow love on his tormentors. He said that "because you need to train your own." status no anxiety, embarrassment should retain in our minds, we should continue to speak the words themselves damage, should express sympathy with the other, go to the heart filled with love, liberation get rid of malevolence, malice still refuge. And e? i with this tormentors (the thieves are cutting our limbs), let cooling with loving thoughts immense wealth term, escaped the anger of revenge.
Buddha's love really is flawless. As soon as the Bodhisatta (Bodhisattva, the future Buddha), in countless lifetimes He suffered so much torture, death without resurrection nurturing a tiny bit of what cherished resentment against men letter. And when the Buddha, he always kept a calm state and serenity. He never let states move calmly and relaxed swing. When the elephant attacked him ferociously Nalagiri, he bestow kindness love to subdue it. In 45 years of preaching, with some strange short life remaining is an illustrative example of the love of charity.
Not only Buddha is the only teacher lecture about love. All great men also said so. Jesus Christ said: "Love your neighbor as you love thyself so! If someone slapped my right cheek, turn to the left cheek to ask him to add a left fig." Mahatma Gandhi, who is known violent supporters said: "If the blood flowing, just letting it flow. Prepared ulterior courage to death without killing. As a man living in the posture ready to embrace death, if need be in the hands of his brother, never to kill him ". This statement reminds us the story of a monk being threatened by a violent general. The general shout: "You know, I am the one who can kill you without even feel remorse". The monk replied: "Sir, I am the person can be killed without blame." Faced with courage who have heart, general staff left without harming monks there.
In addition to poisoning our minds, anger, hatred is also a danger to the health of our bodies. Medical and pharmaceutical sciences have proven that anger and emotions are harmful to health can contribute to bring the disease to the body. When we get angry, our body secretes chemicals that might upset the physiological balance. If our behavior becomes a habit, it can lead to prolonged illness Classified illness, such as: stomach ulcers, indigestion, constipation, hypertension, heart attack and even cancer anymore.
On the other hand, the mental state of peace and calm, balance can lead to physical and mental. We will be healthier, happier and more confident life. Some chronic conditions such as indigestion may be bothering us and can also be resolved. Other diseases can also be prevented. A serene mental clarity will be shown through the skin of the face and the body. We go wherever people are in love, people prefer. No one likes dealing with a temperamental person angry or angry easily. Take an example: A boss always frowning, or scream with employees, he did not get anything to anyone and everyone shunned.When given the opportunity, these employees will leave him. Contrary to the boss always smiling, kind and help, one who never or rarely loses his temper to always get people interested and love. With a boss like that, very few staff left him even higher salaries elsewhere.
Moreover, your ethics will affect those who come into contact with you, you are a good example for others to follow. We can change the world, make it better and more honest people based on the establishment of a non-typical model? Yes, it is OK. Through our own change and establish a pattern, we really are making a positive contribution to a better world. Let's say: The world is made up of human beings, man-made world. If you change people, you're changing the world. And we started our own right, after all, you're not the only person living on this earth. So when you change, you will change this world in the circumstances would be less easy to add a person angry. If more people change, the world will increasingly be changed over. The more people love and are living in peace, the chaos, conflict in the world will be reduced.
Aware of the toxic effects of anger can bring us and others, let's dispel anger and bestow kindness love. Let kindness, patience, kindness and helping others. We should not bluff.We do not let others confused, bewildered and awkward. Take a look around and found that there was just too much suffering in the world, we do not to pour on. Instead, let's consolation and peace, the torch lit for the people around, we went safely and happier.
The decision to suppress his rage and spread that love is the first step. Next issue we'll practice like? When anger arises, we do not easily restrain it, it takes a lot of effort and ingenuity to restrain anger. So in the following pages we will discuss the ways and techniques to control anger. Issues discussed mainly the mindfulness (Sati) and the intellectual incurred ( Yoniso manasikara ). Based on mindfulness we can soon extinguish the anger from the burgeoning, even when it plays up. Generation application intelligence to justify many reasons why we do not get angry, will remind and we have a desire to banish anger quickly vanish from our minds. In the third part, we will present meditation on loving kindness ( Mettabhavana ), which is an antidote best anger. We believe that if you read interest, considering the reasons why we should not get angry, after all he did not want to get angry, and the next time anger emerged, he wants to extinguish it immediately. And combined with the cultivation of mindfulness (Sati) and loving-kindness ( Metta ), he will be able to defeat the evil demon angry.
Everyone can be happy. They can eradicate anger and hatred from the heart to take their heart and embodiment of great love, wisdom and love each other close.
T beat the (Sati) is the doorman who first and most loyal against anger and all the unhealthy state of mind. So What is mindfulness? It is the presence of intelligence, perception, clearly knows what's going on right from time to time. Therefore, when anger arises, you have to be mindful, you have to quickly identify in your body rise wrath. You must specify, recognize and say in his head: "Ah! I am angry. I am angry," or you can specify like "angry, angry". Or if you do not want to name, you can feel are the presence of anger in the body.
So when appointed, dragged anger, criticism and there is awareness. This is to help identify action to check anger. Why do we have to specify it? Because when anger arises, it is often engulfed us, even before we know it. It makes our mind and overshadowed much harm to our judgment. In other words, anger suppression of our minds. At that time we did not really get to know anything, after all that time of mental mentality we're angry. We are doing wither rage, we must deal with and resist it. Our facial expressions change and start grumpy, department or even hand-scooped our feet screaming people around. Mindfulness control all these phenomena. It prevents the rage engulf us. The presence of intelligence is the most need to head. Only the action of understanding soothes the feeling of being heated. Instead cope and resist anger, we will observe them. We will observe a burning sensation, emotion. And while it observes, rage first calm down it will weaken and gradually falling.
Moreover, when we observe the anger, we do not pay attention to anyone, other object or conditions around us is making us angry. Instead, we tracked the mental state take place in our heart, monitor the presence of feeling or emotion of anger. Logically speaking, when our attention shifted from headings (eg pathogens should) anger into good awareness of the anger, such as emotions, anger will weaken go. Because if we continue to focus on an object (such as someone), we will be angry, and it will matter more and more angry. But under the bright light of meditation, anger can not be developed further. It is controlled, and with the continued indicated, it increasingly weakened and finally collapse.
And something very interesting is that the anger to subside without the suppression or pressure. You do not have teeth grinding, clenching fists or willpower, spirit to win rage.Instead, when you specify, anger will weaken and disappear. In particular, this can be seen clearly in the focus of meditation, when the focus of the meditation at altitude can knock enemies angry or mental state unfair action by designated .
Another benefit that brings mindfulness is that it allows us to stop and correct decision or action events. When we designate and identify're angry, we will not be emotionally involved. We have time to think and act wise decision. During such period, we have the opportunity to practice. Yoniso manasikara the Buddha called it the contemplation of wisdom or the appropriate consideration. If anger completely defused the first place appointed, then we can practice meditation Yoniso manasikara by contemplation of the face of evil and harmful things when angry. In the process of reflection, our anger evident when it weakens and more we are easily persuaded unpleasant anger and anger will subside gradually. A desire not want to anger or did not want to anger any more will continue to rise. And finally, the anger will disappear.
So the first rule is to practice mindfulness. If you have a habit of focusing on the concept of significant change in mental state, you may become people who can grasp immediately rage when it emerged. You can feel and know that your anger is growing, and based on that understanding, you can soon extinguish it from the burgeoning, completely remove it immediately before it can expression on his face or in your actions. That's the miracle of mindfulness. It can knock out immediately unhealthy state of mind.
The next problem is that in different ways, we choose (for comparison) how to eliminate anger. We can not get rid of it thoroughly through mindfulness. There are many methods so that we can choose, for comparison.
In this book we will study the differences between them, and we believe that if you read interest, over time you will read the last page, and fully realizes the annoyances, problems and the meaninglessness of anger. You will never want to be angry anymore.This condemnation alone will be useful to you, through which your mind is easily friendly towards between people, not angry anymore, keep calm and cheerful. With these wishes and healthy decisions, right, now you have the ability to reduce the anger.Moreover, anger surfaced repeatedly when it still occurs, it will no longer be strong and you also have the ability to recall and apply all the different antidote based on what we I will discuss below.
One thing to remember is that while awareness and thinking in mind, there is suppressed during check anger. Obviously, there are quite a lot of anger subsided during mindfulness or meditation. For Western countries, sometimes they think that if we slow to anger, it will not be good for our health. So according to this school, expressed anger to relax the tension is a good thing. However, there are also other schools that expressing anger is excessive and would be harmful. In any case though, to give themselves an "explosion" because of the stress relaxation will not fit. With the method of the Buddha-mail, the Buddha is not directed or allowed to do that. In contrast, he teaches us to love turned into anger, loose our wrath, we are opening a box full slide-minded and are generating more negative karma. While responsibility for the Gang to act to harm or hurt others. At the highest level, we extinguish the anger and sometimes victims are innocent members of the community. Method for Buddhists that we discussed here is not related to the compression angry. The mindfulness that mentioned not involved in the repression, that's just knowing mental state is taking place within us. Identify and observe anger towards natural wound down. And application of intellectual thought and control your anger without the pressure of the repressed.
Art calm and peaceful mood had completely eroded in the modern world of ours. Life is messy, and worries, focus on creating material and indiscriminate production and consumption, glossy attractive exterior, advertising in the mass media, and many other issues in modern life has contributed to the erosion of moral qualities and spiritual values. We also damaging to our spirit, we have always been anxious, anxiety, agitation, anxiety, fear and anger.
At a high level, we establish an equilibrium level of spiritual development, the simplicity, the situation is calm and quiet. To develop this composure and discipline of meditation is of no value. Mindfulness meditation apply the optimization method.However, it is not within the scope of the problem going into the details of mindfulness meditation. It can be collected from different books for the same topic, meditations on love, tolerance is also a great way to practice, which is particularly effective against all forms of anger evil, hatred and cowardice. It applies to those who have the ideal temperament anger, hatred. Therefore, we will display meditations preached about love-the amount in subsequent chapters.
Meanwhile, it is important that we try to cultivate and maintain a calm mood and keep relaxed wherever. If we are consistent and determined effort to do this, it is very unlikely we lost calm or agitated by the disturbances caused emotions, such as rage. So from now we should try to remain calm and steadfast in all acts of our gestures. We should try to speak peacefully and with consideration, should not noisy agitation. We should use mindfulness to check agitation, anxiety and agitation when they emerge. We should keep our body in a state of calm and peaceful. We should continue the daily operation on the peaceful, judgment and determination and I will come to experience a world of peace, quiet, full of fun. During the peaceful status and quiet, you will find the power and the ability to achieve business and your goals.
Hence dose of "detoxifying" the second is to cultivate and maintain a calm state and stability. St. Abba-Dorotheus, who spent many years of research said: "What things beyond your reach, even if the matter is very urgent and requires extreme caution, I will not fight Comments or not to be anxious mood, confused. There is a certainty that everything you do, regardless of size 1/8 only solve the problem, while keeping the mood not to be harassed, even even in the mood to accept that we should succumb to achieve this purpose, the time remaining chance is 7/8. So if you busy for some particular work and want to make it perfectly , trying to achieve it. As I said above you just solved the problem only 1/8, and then if you keep your mood is not compromised, there will be chances for success 7 / 8. However, to achieve the purpose of the work to make sure you will do yourself lost temper and cause more damage or other nuisance half due to debate with others, and you will lose opportunities because 7/8 1/8 protection benefits?
As a Buddhist-mail, we should consider the advice and example of the Buddha, the Buddha has demonstrated the patience to deal with thousands of provocation, teasing.He is never angry instead He always love to bestow beings, even those who were harmed him. He was not mad when Devadatta tried to find a way to kill him, when Cinca deliberately false accusation he has caused her to become pregnant, or when other sects deliberately false accusation he killed a woman passerby .
Not only in the last lifetimes in the past lives as a bodhisattva (ie the future Buddha), the Buddha has demonstrated patience and great endurance. Khantivadijataka story (the story of the origin of the practice of patience) demonstrated extraordinary patience of the Bodhisattva. In the story it tells of an evil king threatens Kalabu Bodhisattva who later became an ascetic. Kalabu king asked, "Hey guys recluse, You teach what?" Bodhisattva answered, "Lord, I teach people tolerability, patient".
"The tolerability, patience is what?"
"That's not the status of anger when others cursing or beating or insult me."
The king said, "So now I want to see tolerability, his true patience" and ordered the executioner whipped Bodhisattva. Blueberries executioners Bodhisattva until his skin cracked and blood flow. King Kalabu Bodhisattva asked again: "Do the other monks, who taught what?"
Bodhisattva replied: "I teach people tolerability, patient, sir. But he thought calculated to endure, my patience just outside. Up to endure, my patience is not inside outside, where he could not see because of patience, my endurance was hidden deep, clinging to my heart. "
Because of the selfish, the king ordered the executioner's hands and feet of the Bodhisattva. Executioners had executed the order and therefore the Bodhisattva bleeding profusely.
The king scolded Bodhisattva: "The teaching something?"
"Lord, teach me patience and endurance. But I think the power of patience and endurance in my arms and legs. It is not only that which already exists in the deep, clinging to the meat from time to time, sweeping in my blood. "
The king again ordered "his ears and nose cut" and executions followed. The whole body of the Bodhisattva soaked with blood. The king also asked that question, the Bodhisattva also answered the same as before, "Lord, teach me patience and endurance. But he do not think stamina and my patience is located in the ear and nose that it was ingrained in my heart. "
, "You can sit down and take a load capacity of e praise? Ng, Thou patience" and then the crabs had kicked Bodhisattva and look away in triumph.
Overall soldiers who witnessed the story from beginning to end was cleaned of blood on the people of the Bodhisattva, bandage the wounds in the hands, feet, ears and nose, and begged bodhisattva forgive everything. "O hermit, if God is angry, be angry and do not separate the angry king unto the Kingdom."
Bodhisattva replied that "I am not angry with anyone, nor angry unto the king because he was hurting me. I just wish that a long reigning king is like me will never angry now ". And Bodhisattva who died that day. It is said that because of the cruel nature, the king was struck by lightning and rebirth into realms Avivi , hell.
So, it comes to patience and do not arouse the wrath of the Bodhisattva is an inspiration and a lesson for all of us. So-particles are the Buddha, if we want to be disciples of the Buddha, we must try to pay attention to practice according to his counsel. Because even in the last life, he still smiled on the orchid. He said even if the thief has sawing or cutting our limbs, we should not be angry, but let us bestow loving generosity to them and let's wish that "all beings and the name this theft will satisfy and happy ". No doubt, this is the hardest advice to implement but it has given us to understand that "the teachings of the Buddha without the positions reserved for anger." And we will practice good to our heart filled with love and get rid off all the attacks, hatred and delusion. So think about that the next time we're going to keep balance better conditions to test our anger when it emerges.
Life is only a shadow cell, a bad actor, honored on, snapped the hour of his performance on stage and then nobody mentioned anymore. Such is the story told by idiots, full of sound, aberration, nothing special ca.- Shakespeare, Macbeth.There are those who do not know that people living in this world and then has to die. And who knows, instead they shall keep calm controversy .-- Buddhist scriptures.
In the above verse, Shakespeare reminds us that sometimes in life we have to live in the injury, death and the stupid actions. And the last words of the Buddha also timely reminder that the obvious presence of death is all around us every step closely. Yes, we do not it's true negative, while we are angry, agitated, we often forget that someday die if we do not? But when thinking about death, we often say to ourselves we are saying, "Ah! Is it worth angry? Life is too short people, soon we all must die. Enraged or anxiety also went nowhere, only makes us more bothered only. so I do not bring these things bothered me. I live police department with himself and the world, the people around. ultimately I do not work, then we do not work alone ... with wise thinking like you can go to the people and decided to fight back with fury.
In fact, at least once a day we contemplate death is also a good thing. The Buddha taught us maranasati (contemplation of death) so that we can develop a sense of urgency in meditation and the cultivation of wisdom. Contemplation of death will start up, motivates us try to live a life full of meaning and responsibility, not wasting time in pursuit of these things are not beneficial. For vipassana , meditation teacher Joseph Goldstein said: "If we embrace death as our counselor, every moment we live with power and perfection. We will contribute final strength together for humanity ".
So always remember: "Life is precarious but death is evident" or "Alas! The life of real people is short, always limited and fleeting, full of pain and Systems dry". People must understand wisely, do good and holy towards life, by people who did not escape death ?.
You do not want to hurt yourself? Of course, nobody wants to hurt himself. But when we are angry, we really are doing yourself harm. In meditation instruction book Visuddhi Magga (Visuddhimagga) has said: "In anger with others, you probably do not hurt or injured him, but one thing is sure that you're hurt. And angry when you're like other guys who want to kick on and holding glowing coals or stench of feces and so first you burn or make yourself be stinky ". Oh! There have been people stupid than you already!Yes, we are angry, can hurt or not hurt others but has certain things that we are doing themselves harm us. What harm? First, we are beginning to poison us through these times angry, because anger (dosa) is a mental state unhealthy and in anger, we are hurt and started to pollute our brains. As the Buddha-mail, we should know that any unhealthy state of spirit also led to negative consequences ( akusala vipāka ). So if we do not want bad results, then wise to steer out of the storm angrily and all the unhealthy state of the spirit.
As we mentioned before, the mental state is also related to the health of the body.Through the study by Paul Pearsall, a doctor Americans "Every thought and feeling go together with the chemistry of the brain rains that will affect the millions of cells." He also stressed that "our health can progress under the excessive control of emotions". In the book "Super immune" by Dr. Pearsall has written: "The invisible objects such as thoughts and feelings that can cause disease and make the body becomes healthy ... These germs, germs sick constantly hovering around us, but we did not stay and hold on if the terrain is not suitable. this terrain is by four by thinking, how perception, sensation and perception. "
Another doctor, U Aung Thein was explained in the journal "Biology and the meditation of the Buddha-mail" that unhealthy emotions can disrupt the biochemical balance of the body. These chemicals are secreted by the body resulting emotions caused by them could adversely affect other organs, such as: the thyroid adrenal cortex, and the digestive tract rebirth other cells.
Take, for example, anger is the cause of the secretion of chemicals that epinefrine opposite effect increases blood pressure, rapid heart rate and oxygen consumption prolonged or frequent occurrence of mental state unhealthy can cause diseases such Classified: ulcers in the digestive system, indigestion, heart problems and even cause cancer.
Realizing the dangerous consequences of the anger and the mental state unhealthy effects on both mind and body, we have to decide as quickly eliminate negative emotions. We must quickly try to expel it out of our minds when they emerge. Executive Decision patience and keep relaxed mind in all circumstances.
Men and women are very bad when angry. If you look in the mirror see your grimace when angry, sure you will not like. Maybe all of us who also have a small mirror in his pocket to give up when we are angry can quickly draw inspiration see his beautiful face when angry. Maybe it's the instant antidote to extinguish the flames in our own yard.
Even as a beauty queen if she had a habit or anger, then gradually fade over time also ugly. These wrinkles get worse before age when she always scowled. Or on her face, expression unsympathetic, always quarreling, making things for others always want to stay away. Conversely, one who is always smiling and always gentle itself, rarely angry, always had a genuine love. He or she go to where people are warmly welcomed and loved.
People in this life is so ugly in a previous life they always angrily. Law has now turned out to create writing that: those who carry resentment or angry temper if the afterlife is reborn as a human will look very ugly or even disgusting. So we are the Buddha-mail, believe in the law of karma and nature that is the natural law sow so shall you reap. We have to learn to curb attacks break out angrily. If you get angry, think of the bad karma that can happen to you and you quickly calming anger.
We must know how to do all of our actions whether we do anything we will have to suffer. In the words of the law of karma Buddha said: "Behold the monks, people are masters of their actions." They are the heirs for their actions. Action is the cradle of humanity. Humans attached to their actions. Their actions are a haven. They do anything good or bad will be the heir.
Recognizing that, we feel anxious for people with irritable temperament or or hatred.Why so? Because in a state of anger or irritability, he is piled into heaps of negative karma that someday he will suffer the results of which are not pleasant at all. If he does not change his habits eventually he can go to hell. And if we return with hostility or irritability, anger, we will also be no better than him. Finally we will go to hell.
When we reflect on industrialization law, we will calm. Because industrialization law is a law we must impose liability burden. Each of us must take responsibility for our work.If a person do wrong, he will suffer bad karma. Everything from us, we must shun anger and all the unhealthy state of the spirit.
Everyone has good qualities. If we see the good points of others, may we will not get angry with it. He can help us in one way or another. When we recall his virtues and deeds that he has done before. We would be softened and softened. We should also remember that no one is perfect, and even ourselves also mistakes again. Buddha says, look at our mistakes and correct them better is to look at the mistakes of others. That suggests that the faults found ourselves better is found thousands of others fault.
When we are angry, we should not act or say anything. Because in that mood, what we can do or say is not true. We can do either or say something hurtful that we regret this.Later, even when we say "sorry" and then it will be too late, because the damage has already happened. A person harmed is unlikely to help him change the attitude or feeling about us.
So when anger arises, we should go and icy cold like a log so. Only after we quell the anger, let's say or do something. So we fall back on the principle of action only after the head was calm and relaxed. At that time, what we do will be better and there will be no reason for us to repentance or remorse afterwards.
Once the Buddha told his disciples atula "Hey Asuras, this incident has had a long time ago, not just of today; they rebuked him for him because he kept quiet attitude, they rebuked him because he talks too much, they reprimanded him because he speaks slowly; no one in the world could not be blamed at all? If we look at ourselves, we see that things this is absolutely right. No one on this earth escape a reprimand. we do anything well be some people somewhere to find our mistakes. Understand the nature of such work, we should not upset or angry when reprimanded.
However, what we can do is look at the reasons why a reprimand. If the truth is that we are wrong, then we slowly calm to correct. But if we get blamed a wrong way, we do not have mental disorders. We can justify our actions and why reprimanded ridiculous. After doing all the things we can do, we do not bother to control excessive charge. We should exercise calm calculation, relax and ponder one thing that even the Buddha has not escaped a reprimand. An example when He lived on earth, the Buddha was criticized for eating meat, be it deliberately false imputation is in a relationship with Cinca, and murderous actions of a woman crossing the road.
Another important thing is that we did things right or we have done everything we can.When we do so, we will not blame anyone when there is no wise man or someone who understands our position and the reasoning behind the action, would never reprimand us . Only those who are stupid or do not understand the reasons and circumstances of the actions we reprimand. Yes, it is an inevitable thing in life; because we do anything and still be blamed or criticized. What we can do is try to do the right things to reduce the risk of a reprimand to a minimum. Finally, if we still reprimanded ie we do not know what we can do and it is necessary to make it look like.
If we consider the question of why we are angry, we will realize that we still have "a crime" and perhaps "a crime" that is too large. We remain consistent, atta, "a crime", "ego" is one. That is why we feel despised and angry. If we do not consider "sin" and smooth out the Buddha's teachings on anatta (no ego) then we would not worry, sadness or anger, nothing can disturb, provoke us.
During his lifetime, the Buddha repeatedly provoked and challenged, yet the Buddha never angry, he never lost his temper at all. In business, we can not find any signs of the Buddha showed us angry, stressed that the contrary was the Buddha who has eradicated all the anger and inability to get angry. Therefore, even if the Buddha had the opportunity to teach teeth firmly a monk disciples or a mistake, he also taught calmly teeth, not angry.
Likewise, levels Arahant (Arhat) who has attained enlightenment and showed no sign of anger. Example: He Sariputta, the chief disciple of the Buddha is known famous for the extraordinary patience and his humility.
Once there is a group of people praise the virtues of Sariputta said: "His Patience our elders so extraordinary that even when people are insulted and beat him, and he showed no signs angry".
A Brahmans who do not believe, ask retorted, "Is there anyone in this world that does not get angry?" and said it would provoke his elders. One day, he approached her from behind and punched his Sariputta a hard punch him back.
Sariputta He noted: "That's what?" rounded arms crossed still not even turn his head to look behind him. Later, Brahmans was apologetic and elders knelt at his feet and ask forgiveness. He elders asked amiably: "Forgive what?"
Brahmans responded fully repentant, remorseful: "Forgive me for I would like to try his patience, I beat him."
"Very good. I forgive you."
Then Sariputta Brahmans invited him home for lunch. But they found a group of people who are prepared to fight like crazy, intense and want to attack Brahmans. Sariputta prevent them and asked: "For you or for me, he was beaten?" "Sir, because of Him!""Oh, if for me, he was beaten, he asked me to forgive and I have forgiven him already. You guys just break up." And in that noble manners, Sariputta was disbanded by riot.
Sariputta humility of extraordinary well as his patience. On another occasion, a baby bourgeois new convent was seven years old his rope criticized for not strictly column.That seems to be due to momentary carelessness, part of his rope hangs down is bourgeois. When found out this rather annoying since Sariputta was criticized by a new child seven years old convent, immediately he stepped aside and tied his rope to strictly.Then he stepped before the boy's hands in the new convent and said, "Rabbi, right now, sir!".
The virtue of a quality level that is the Arahant, the encouragement, respect and is a lesson for us. Why they did not make it angry? Because they have cessation of all that is inextricably linked with the "I" or "ego". No idea (accept) the toihay ego, they do not feel that "I was the despised". Or "just a new kid tu seven stars dare to correct me, Sariputta, the chief disciple of the Buddha". Such thoughts do not appear in the beginning of Sariputta, because he had been a good solid understanding of the Buddha's teachings on the so-called anatta (no-self, no ego), he has eradicated all all the anger and arrogance.
So, the next time we are angry, we must understand that because we still homogenous "self" or "ego". Then if we can recognize the truth of anatta that is ultimately no "I" here, "I" is just a term or concept generally, we can consider how Sariputta yet never lost his temper, even when hurt and criticized strongly, despite his position as head of the Buddha's disciples. Having contemplated so, we have the ability to control our anger.
Next problem is considered as "Who was angry?" "What is anger?" Atta? Or "I"?Remember that, in the final sense, not you and your friend nor anger is real at all. After all we are only able to form and material, the elements and the advocacy process.
So in Visuddhi Magga, has taught us to ponder by dissecting our body into several parts: "Now you're mad at something? With hair, feathers, nails ... or with the urine ? or by elements in the soil in the hair? water? fire? or the air? ... are you angry with a block of material reasonable? or a block of feeling, perception, physical characteristics, consciousness? or is by the look of the eyes ... ". When contemplating such, our anger will not find a foothold and will calm down.
Or we may think that all of us are created by the mind and matter. And this mind and matter is always changing. Especially to change very quickly, an idea arises up and go through the r? T fast. We can say that it is like lightning or a blink of an eye. Millions of thoughts can arise for a moment and turned to go. So, we are angry with something?Who should we be? Mind and matter that you have gone mad. Since then children? U group, the mind and matter has taken positions on them already. Such thinking, anger can also subside.
Buddha says no start is the cycle of reincarnation. We are passing by Samara , the journey to roam and survive this, too long, but long ago we were cousins to each other at a certain level or more. Therefore, the Buddha said: "Behold the masters monks, not easy to find a person that previously was not his mother, a father, a brother, sister, son, daughter .. . of the teacher ". So, would not create us to nourish any resentment against the people that in the past life with our relatives. Think of the mind, our anger can also subside.
One of the reasons why we are angry that we do not have the ability to forgive and forget. So, we easily get angry, and the end result is that we tend to be nurtured in the hearts of bitterness, resentment or hatred for some resentment that has given us (the estate sometimes that average real or imagined). Though, sometimes we think we forgive but we take in our heart completely inexcusable. A consciously or not consciously, we still are a little nurturing bitterness or resentment. If we can learn to leave it, quite arbitrarily forgive, we will live a life of peace and happiness - no longer carry on their shoulders the burden of resentment, or anger .. .
The tolerance is the way it should be called "the merciful love of love" and "the scent of violet species radiate themselves under the heel when stepping on it". "It can seat like the covenant was canceled on, is torn in half and burn it away so that it never returns opposite harm our people. If we have real love, if we have love kindness strong, we will be fully capable of forgiving all wholeheartedly, full reviews pardon without any conditions or reservations about.
So we forgive what? We forgive any wrong things that others have done nothing for us, just like we like others to forgive the wrong actions we have done to them. We do not seek vengeance. We restrain anger, do not say or do anything to hurt or offend people who behave badly of us. We forgive, should not foster jealousy or unwilling to them, please understand that all of us all have faults and weaknesses.
It is true, we forgive others, we should also forgive our own past as it may sometimes we did the wrong thing, and now we have found it difficult to forgive ourselves. We have to repentance and remorse. Repentance that makes us anxious, depression and physical pain. The Buddha taught that what we should do not get discouraged about what we have done, but let's deal with it and not to repeat mistakes, and it can create the compensation. We should leave behind the stage of unhappiness and do not repeat or occasionally subjected pang of repentance.
If recollection arises, we should specify it (eg mindfulness) and should not fret, worry about it. We should resolutely up that thought aside, please understand that there is nothing more we can do is subtract creating compensation and decided not to repeat the mistake again. Sometimes we catch ourselves to comply with the demands and expectations too much for us. But we also have to acknowledge the shortcomings of human capital and the reason was, and all of us are not gods. We can not get rid of it, but if we work with it firmly and patiently, eventually we will reach the goal and destination.So we need to be patient, and persevere decision.
When we examine the benefits of cultivating loving kindness we no longer want to be angry anymore. The Buddha taught that people who meditate with love kindness can bring 11 interests: He or she sleep easily; wake up sober; not dreaming nightmares;loved by everyone; by sight and gods who protected; fire, poison and weapons will not harm him; he easily attracted the focus, face calm, delicate; he died peacefully, peacefully like falling into a sleep. If he does not achieve "arahatship", after death he will be reborn in the kingdom "brahma" noble. Discussing the benefits of this more will be mentioned in the meditation practice loving kindness. But in short, these benefits are longing peak and enough to tempt us to let anger and remain calm. Conversely, if we allow anger to emerge ie we have refused these benefits. Thinking like that will also act as a deterrent let us resist with anger.
In some cases, we can give a few gifts too. For example, no one who does not seem to like us and always say bad things about us. In such cases it is easy to book responds by angry and fight back. But that is not the behavior of the Buddha-mail, the Buddhist motto is: Never returning evil for evil, but rather to respond to that love. So let us overcome the challenges and make the most difficult thing for him by buying a gift! It is the sign of magnanimity and generosity of us, whether enemies with bad intentions to us, we should not foster ill-will, no goodwill with them.
Then, we can calmly and consistently, realize that we have to refuse, limit to be drawn into any collisions or mad with anger or malice. And so the enemy will also understand the action, the noble gesture of ours, and gradually he also changed the look of us. Even he also became friendly with us, too? So for a gift can make a surprise and is something that we can see is doing in certain situations.
We conclude this section here. In the previous section we discussed a lot about the perspective we can accept suppressed rage and calm. We hope that the readers have followed ever more resolute will have to abandon anger and cultivate love. In the next section, we will discuss how meditation practice loving kindness.
1) The first norm: Mindfulness.
2) Consistency in the practice of keeping a calm mind.
3) Consider a typical example of the Buddha.
4) Be aware that all of us someday also must die.
5) look again you angry about the hazardous consequences.
6) Take a look in the mirror.
7) Be aware that we must do all our actions.
8) Please comment on the good side of it.
9) Cold as ice!
10) No one can avoid reprimand.
11) Why do we get angry?
12) who was angry?
13) Please know that all of us are kin to each.
14) forgiveness.
15) consider the benefits of loving kindness.
16) Give gifts. END=NAM MO AMITABHA BUDDHA.( 3 TIMES ).VIETNAMESE TRANSLATE ENGLISH BY=THICH GIAC TAM.THE MIND OF ENLIGHTENMENT.VIETNAMESE BUDDHIST NUN=GOLDEN AMITABHA PURELAND=AUSTRALIA,SYDNEY.2/12/2016.
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